Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Visit My New Home!

I'm moving on up..... please come visit me at my new website, full of new features, and YES, you can still read ALL of my almost 900 blog posts! The greatest feature is that all the blog posts are now categorized, so you can read from the category that interests you! Posts on topics like parenting, anxiety, love, relationships, stress, happiness, personal development and more will keep you INSPIRED for a long time! More posts are being added all the time so check back often! Now.... please go straight to my new site and let the FUN begin! www.liveinspirednow.com

Please let me know what you think! Comment on the new site! Thank you for your love and support!

Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Youth Speaker | Author

Friday, March 7, 2014

What have you given up on?

Hey Everyone! Look at me... I'm "vlogging!" Thad and I are working on a whole new updated website which will include videos as well. We hope to launch the site within the next two weeks! My son Harry is going to produce my videos and make them look all fancy and professional, but I did today's video myself using my computer. I hope you enjoy it, and disregard the shine on my face from my sunny office window! lol.

Enjoy, and Live Inspired Now!

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Thursday, March 6, 2014

Freaked Out By Indecision?

Indecision does not have to cause anxiety. Take a step back, take a deep breath, give yourself a moment, and then make a decision. I watch people become frantic all the time... in line at the grocery store or at the coffee counter, or even when trying to decide which way to go while driving. People just start to freak out a little because they don't know what they want, and you can see the anxiety start to rush over them. They might get red, start breathing more shallow, self deprecate, and then they might even take out their anxiety on whomever is close by. I have seen parents yell at their kids, or angrily grab their kids because they are starting to feel overwhelmed by the decision making process.

It's true that other people may get irritated that they have to wait behind you, but that doesn't mean you have to let their impatience or rudeness influence you. If you are in a line and get completely overwhelmed you have a couple of options.

1 Step out of line, gather yourself, make your decision, then get back in line. NO, nobody is looking at you and thinking you're weird. NO, nobody is judging you because you couldn't make a decision. NO, you don't have to leave the store and never come back. The truth is, nobody cares.... they are all too busy thinking about themselves to notice that you stepped out of the line and are taking a break by the condiment counter.

2 Stay in the line, take a deep breath, give yourself a moment, then make your decision. It is OK, to take a moment to decide something. While it might be true that you have someone rude in line behind you who might roll their eyes, or huff loudly, you can choose to ignore them, and be in control of YOU! Chances are, most people are probably just waiting patiently and really not noticing you at all.

Today, don't let the anxiety of indecision effect your day. Have self compassion and allow yourself to relax. Let other people worry about their own impatience, it's not your problem. Be patient and kind to yourself and Live Inspired Now!

PS: Social anxiety can feel overwhelming but it doesn't have to be. Contact me today for some solutions! Also, check out my book, Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness! Don't wait for happiness... create it!

Monday, March 3, 2014

Raise Kids That Like Each Other!

You might have participated in team building exercises at work, but what about doing some team building at home? This weekend I had my kids do a fun project together and they loved it! I told the kids that they just inherited an island and they were the new government. Here are the tasks they had to complete:

1 Name the island
2 Design a license plate
3 Design a flag
4 Choose a national bird, and flower
5 Write a national anthem
6 Appoint one another to government offices
7 Create laws

The rules were these:

1 You must ALL participate, and no one may be excluded.

The kids had a great time coming up with jobs and tasks, and they really loved the creativity aspect. They all participated without "taking over" for one another, and allowed input from all members.

Ethan wrote and sang the national anthem. Carrie drew and colored a license plate, Mattie and Harry took senior roles and helped to manage the tasks. They all created the laws together, and even drew a schematic of the island and plan to create a 3 dimensional model. It was a lot of fun and Thad and I enjoyed watching them all work together. We were quite surprised that they created very traditional type laws, as we were expecting "Ice cream for dinner" laws, or perhaps "A pony for every household."

If you are struggling with children that don't get along with one another, this might be one exercise that can help create bonds. Encouraging group activity and team building can have a big impact on siblings. Just remember to never use "time together" as a punishment. For example, never make one child play with another as punishment, it shows the child that their sibling is nothing more than a consequence of bad behavior and is sure to make them resentful of one another. Try some fun team/sibling/family building activities and Live Inspired Now!

PS: Raising kids that get along is not hard to do. Please consider buying my book for more information on how to raise kids that like each other and how to create family harmony! Live Inspired Now; A Field Guide For Happiness is available here on this page on the right side! TY!