Value yourself so others will too....

 

If you are looking to other people to make you feel worthy, you will always be disappointed. You are worthy of love and happiness and you find that by being kind to yourself. Love yourself, use kinds words about yourself, don't put yourself in abusive relationships, don't take the words of others personally, focus on things you are grateful for, and never settle for less than you deserve because you are lonely! Even alone, YOU are worthy, special, and valuable and YOU need to believe that before anyone else will. Others will eventually get tired of "lifting you up," all the time, you have to value yourself. It is OK to lean on others in moments of need, but you don't want to be constantly "needy."

Today, make a list of all your greatest qualities, post it prominently, read it daily and Live Inspired Now!

4 Reasons Why It's Good To Fail!

Failing one time doesn't make you an expert at it. You have to keep trying if you want to get really good at failing! You may ask yourself, "why would you want to be good at failing?" Failure allows us to grow, to learn, and to find or create new opportunities. Here are 4 reasons why it is good to fail:

1 EXPERIENCE: Failing builds your experience and with experience, wisdom follows. The more you fail, the more you learn what to do (and what not to do). Wisdom and experience will get you farther in life than education alone. Experience helps us learn and grow as people. Find the lesson in every failure and enjoy the knowledge that comes with it.

One fails forward toward success.  ~Charles F. Kettering

2 PERSEVERANCE: If you keep trying after a failure, then you are learning a valuable lesson in perseverance. It is extremely rare to try something for the first time and be instantly good at it. For example, the first time you try to play piano, you will not sound like Beethoven. However, if you persevere and stick with it, you will eventually become a talented musician and will enjoy the music you are playing. This is a valuable lesson to teach, especially to kids today who expect (and often get) everything instantly.

Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.  ~F. Scott Fitzgerald

3 FAMOUS FAILURES: You will be in good company. Every millionaire and billionaire has failed;  rather than quit, they let the failure motivate them to keep going until they achieved what they wanted. Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, JK Rowling, Steven Spielberg, Marilyn Monroe, Oprah Winfrey, Stephen King, Henry Ford, Vincent Van Gogh, and so many more are great examples of people who failed first, kept going, and eventually changed the world.

Failure is an event, never a person.  ~William D. Brown

4 COURAGE: Like the people in #3, if you keep going after failure, you clearly have courage! In a society often paralyzed by fear, you will stand out and be noticed if you are courageous. Standing out often brings opportunities.

Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.  ~Henry Ford

So, enjoy your failures and know they are stepping stones to greatness. Learn the lessons they teach, join the ranks of the great failures before you, and Live Inspired Now!

Can you give me a hand?

 

You are more powerful than you think! Your hands are proof of this.  Your hands pick up your baby when he is learning to walk. Your hands hold your partner's hand when you walk down the aisle after saying, "I do." Your hands wash the blood from many cut knees. Your hands wipe the tears away from a bullied child's cheek. Your hands cover your eyes when you are too afraid to look. Your hands caress a lover and made them feel important. Your hands steer the car that delivers your family safely to the mall. Your hands gently gather broken objects and put them back together. Your hands swing the hammer that builds the new table. Your hands clean the dishes that you use on pizza Fridays. Your hands rub your partners feet when they are sore after working all day. Your hands create the arts and crafts that everyone admires. Your hands communicate when words are not an option. Your hands pet your animals so they know they are loved. Your hands slap high fives in encouragement of others. Your hands give a pat on the back. Your hands pull your loved one close.

You are more powerful than you think.... today, lend a hand and Live Inspired Now!

Thank you to Monique B for the gorgeous artwork and the inspiration! 

WHO is your passion?

Last week Thad took Harry to California for "Vidcon," a 2 day video conference dedicated to video websites and online stars. When they first arrived, they were handed badges to fill out and wear throughout the conference. The badge had a place for your name, video channel, and your passion.

Thad sent me the picture above, he listed ME as his "passion." During the conference, Thad went by the Spreecast booth and one of the women, Molly, noticed his passion and remarked that she knew of an "Inspired Heather Paris!" Thad proudly told her that was the same Heather and they talked all about me and my Three Goddesses business that I share with my friend Jodi. It was unbelievably cool to me that Thad got noticed because of my name 3500 miles away at a conference but the coolest part was that my husband listed ME as his passion.

I was extremely emotional that entire day, and grateful for such a wonderful husband. I reflected on how dedicated we are to putting one another first and how we work at keeping our relationship in the forefront of our lives at all times. This is why I have dedicated my life to helping others, because I want everyone to know happiness the way I do; to be able to really experience life and enjoy every moment. To put suffering aside and open up to love and healing. Prioritize your relationships with people you care about because nothing, I mean nothing, is more important than the relationships you have.

During times of crisis, at scary moments, and at the end of a person's life, NOBODY ever wishes for more work or more money. In those moments of deep reflection, everyone wishes for the people they love. Who are you passionate about? Who will you wish to be close to in times of crisis? Does this person know how you feel? Let them know, share your passion with the world and Live Inspired Now!

Another lesson in mind control and detachment....

"When the mind is the master, you live in a hell. When you are the master of your mind, you live in the land of the Buddhas." -Bodhidharma

I have been given plenty of opportunities over the past few weeks to practice detachment from things and controlling my mind. On Monday, I had a bit of an accident. As I was putting dishes away at home a large cabinet ripped loose from the wall and fell on top of me and shattered all of my fine china.

My mother is a real estate agent and she sold a mansion once when I was younger. It was an incredible place and I was happy to sit in the kitchen and keep her company while she did an open house. While she was showing potential buyers around, I looked in awe at the beautiful dishes in the "butler pantry." They were hand painted with flowers in my favorite colors of pink and green. I remember thinking how lovely they were and imagining them being used at fancy dinner parties. Several years later, I was working as a case manager and an elderly client of mine walked into my office with a box full of dishes she was throwing away. She showed them to me and asked if I wanted any. Sitting there on the pile were two of these beautiful pink and green flowered dishes and she let me have them. That was how I got my first pieces; for the next 20 years I collected the "Franciscan Ware, dessert rose pattern" dishes a little at a time. My mom would find pieces here and there in antique shops and send them to me and I would mix in some new pieces as I could afford them.

My collection had grown even bigger than the one I originally saw in that mansion and now it all laid smashed over my head and on my floor. I laid across the floor in the broken glass, looking at the small pool of blood next to my hand and at that moment knew, I have nothing. For as much as I thought I had been detached, I hadn't been, but now I was. I have nothing, I own nothing, and I control nothing and although I was in physical pain, it was a very freeing feeling. Bleeding and crying, my girls helped me up and got me an ice pack for my foot that had been smashed by the cabinet when it fell. I cleaned up my hand and called Thad who was in California on business. Then I called my Mom to let her know what happened. Besides my Franciscan Ware, the cabinet was home to all of my crystal stemware that my mother gave me. She had collected these hand blown glasses one at a time when we lived in Germany in the 70's and they were extremely expensive. My mom was bummed but she was more concerned that I was OK and she said "well now I have an excuse to hit the antique stores to build up your collection again!"

The girls helped me clean up the giant mess and we all talked about how accidents happen and that is part of life. I for one am very grateful that the kids had not been standing nearby when this happened! I suffered a broken toe, a very sore foot and a cut on my hand but otherwise, fine! It could have been much worse. As much as it sucked to lose all of my collection, I lost much more than that... I lost my attachments and that was a blessing. I controlled my mind by letting go of the pain that can only come from attachment to things and I helped my kids see the lesson in the incident. They were very grateful that I was OK and they all expressed the "life is short so live it to the fullest" sentiments. We had some very nice reflections afterwards and it felt good to help my kids see the lesson rather than focus on the drama.

So today, practice being in control of your mind, try not to make attachments to things, or outcomes and Live Inspired Now!

Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com 

PS: I am pretty sure I will be scheduling a workshop soon about controlling the mind and ways to detach so please continue to check back often! :)

The lesson in break-ups...

Don't hold on too your lover so tightly that they feel smothered or stalked. If you trust them, then allow them to be the person you fell in love with. If you don't trust them, then you should evaluate whether or not you should remain in the relationship.

Many relationships fail when one partner is held "too loosely" which means they feel like they are not cared for. If you don't make time to show your special person how much you love and care for them, they will eventually get their needs met in other ways. Don't forget to show them you love them each and ever day.

Take care of your relationship, the person you love should be your priority. For my younger readers, please understand that you are meant to go through break ups because it teaches you how to have a successful relationship in the future. My teenage clients tend to put more love and attention into their relationships than adults do because they are often less afraid of being vulnerable which makes it much more painful when the relationship ends. Please remind the young people in your life that it is normal and OK for them to experience some heart break but help them see the lesson in each relationship. If they don't learn lessons then they are likely to keep having the same problem over and over with each new relationship. We all know adults like that... the ones who say "Every relationship I have ever had has been like this..." or "Every guy I meet ends up being exactly the same." This is because they are hopping to the next partner without learning the lesson of the break up.

Experience is invaluable, learn from it, cherish your relationships and Live Inspired Now!

Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com

Sleep when your dead....

A good nights sleep is important but once in a while, you can forgo the sleep for a night of fun and adventure! When is the last time you went out for a midnight stroll with your lover? Or took a slow drive down a dark country road just for the fun of it?
When I was a teenager, I often spent time with my Grandma Bea in the summer. She would wake me up in the middle of the night and take me to McDonald's for hot apple pies. One of my favorite memories is of her and me eating apple pies on the curb in the parking lot, then having shopping cart races. There were left over shopping carts that didn't get put away so we would each take one, run as fast as we could, and let go at the same time and see whose cart would go farther. With no cars around at that early morning hour, it was easy for them to soar through the large, dark parking lot. Sometimes, she would even let me drive her Cadillac through the empty lot! We had so much fun and would laugh for days! Grandma loved adventures and she always said "I will sleep when I'm dead!"
So tonight.... get out there and have some fun, do something outside the box, and Live Inspired Now!

Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com 

Chill the hell out...

Sometimes you just have to let go of the BS, put the drama behind you, close the door to complaints or complaining, and chill the hell out! Life is not difficult unless you make it that way. Let the misery, judgement, and unhappiness of others just slide right off of you, you don't have to internalize it. If someone cuts you off, or takes too long at the green light, WHO CARES? Let it go because the moment you react to the actions of another, they control YOU! The very best thing you can do for yourself, your health, and your mental state is to stay in control of your own emotions and relax. Sure, there will be times when you just get angry and that is OK, but take an honest look at how often you are getting angry, frustrated, jealous, or any other emotion that doesn't serve the greater good. Then practice NOT responding to things that trigger these emotions. It takes time but eventually, you can learn to control yourself and you will be far more relaxed and find much more joy in your life. So today, chill the hell out, don't assume everyone is out to get you, take a deep breath, don't let others control you and Live Inspired Now!


Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com

Are you spreading yourself too thin?

Have you ever made homemade pizza dough? If so, you know that when you are rolling it out, if you spread it too thin it will tear. The more you try and spread it to fit on your large pizza sheet, the more it tears. Then, if you try and rip some of the dough from the fatter pieces and make dough patches over the tears so you don't have holes in the middle of your crust, you will realize the patch doesn't stick well.

Besides learning that I can't make pizza crust very well, I hope you can see that life is also like the pizza dough. You can try to spread yourself thin by doing everything but all you end up doing is tearing yourself apart. You might try to apply dough patches by doing things that provide temporary comfort such as shopping, eating, drinking, gossiping, whining, or self sabotaging but you are just covering up the problem.
You may wish you could say yes to everything and everyone, but don't be tempted to spread yourself so thin that you start to hurt yourself. When you spread yourself thin, you can become resentful or angry because you feel overwhelmed or obligated to do everything. Practice saying "no," not only to other people but to yourself as well. It is OK to say no to things and it is OK to tell yourself that right now, you can't take on one more role, project, event, job, child, or whatever it is.
So today, assess whether or not you are spreading yourself too thin. Signs of this would be: excessive worrying, constantly saying "I'm too busy," feelings of frustration, hectic schedules, never saying no to anything, trouble sleeping, eating on the run all the time, or feeling under appreciated.
If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, take action! Here are some simple and effective fixes to get your started: Practice saying "no," take a vacation, learn to meditate, set aside a certain time each day just for you, schedule less, prepare meals in advance and stop to eat them, use more empowering words, listen to relaxing music, stop and take a break, hire a coach to help!
Stop spreading yourself too thin, you are not poorly made pizza dough, enjoy life and Live Inspired Now!

Heather Paris
Inspired Life Coach | Author | Speaker
heather@liveinspirednow.com

Care for your elderly....

Last week I took Carrie to Rhode Island for her 12th birthday. She had 3 wishes: go to the beach, go to the "big mall," and spend time with family. We had a blast even though we weren't able to get to the beach because it rained and was chilly the entire visit.
The last day of our trip we visited my Aunt Rita who just went to the nursing/rehabilitation home. She is 90 years old, she fell at home and broke some ribs, and her doctor ordered her to the nursing home to recover. My Aunt Rita had very long hair that was always kept in a neat bun in the back of her head for the past 40 years. Upon arriving at the nursing home they told her she gets to visit the beauty parlor and they whisked her away. They washed her long beautiful grey hair that she spent 40 years growing and before she knew what was happening, they cut it off right up to her neck. She was horrified and demanded to know why. They explained that it was policy because long hair was "unsanitary." They didn't even discuss it with her first; they cut first, explained later. My aunt was very hurt and although she is 90, her faculties are still in tact. She is as coherent and intelligent as she always was; she is just older. Aunt Rita is taking all these new rules and changes in stride but she did tell me that she was "working her Irish up so she could give them a hard time!"
I love my Aunt Rita. She is one of the classiest women I have ever known. She is down to earth, very thoughtful, and always positive. It breaks my heart to see such a beautiful soul treated like she isn't able to make decisions or have a role in her own care. Her body is old but her mind is completely intact and she doesn't appreciate being treated as though she can't think. I watched several of the nursing staff walk around and speak condescendingly to the other patients as if they were unruly teenagers. Although some of the patients needed higher levels of care, most seemed to be mature men and women who would appreciate being treated as such.
The nursing home was a very nice place; clean and luxurious and could be a lovely place to recover or spend your remaining years if you can't live alone but some of the policies and attitudes could be improved. People need to treat the elderly like they are people; with dignity, compassion, and kindness. Unless they are mentally unable to care for themselves, they should be involved in the decisions being made for them. They should be told what the medications they are given are, they should be asked before they get their hair cut off, and they should be listened to. So today, if you have an elderly person in your life, spend some time with them. Listen to what they have to say, appreciate the years they have spent on earth and maybe even learn something from them. Treat the elderly in your life with kindness and compassion, and Live Inspired Now!

6 Success Tips For Speaking In Public!

Speaking in public can be pretty intimidating but just remember, at some point, we have all done it. You may not be at a podium in front of thousands of people, but maybe you have to speak at your office meeting, or in front of you child's class. Whomever the audience may be, you will want to be successful! Here is a quick list to get you over your jitters and get in front of the crowd!

1 Be prepared! The more you know your material, the better you will feel. Have you ever stumbled when someone asked you a question because you didn't have an answer? That won't happen if you know your subject and are well versed in your material! Always talk about what you know, then you won't get nervous about that "one question you hope they don't ask!" Also, practice your speech and role play questions and answers with someone. The more prepared you are, the more confident you will be!

2 Imagine your positive outcome. Spend some quality time in quiet contemplation and visualize yourself being applauded after a job well done. Imagine how great it feels to have people really engaging with your words and listening so intently. Imagine them laughing, crying, gasping, or whatever would be an appropriate reaction to your speech. Smile and take a bow just as if you actually delivered your speech.

3 Instead of telling yourself how nervous you feel, remind yourself that you are excited! There is not much difference between the two emotions; however, your brain will respond far more positively to excited vs. nervous. Your brain believes the words your mouth says, so be sure you are using words of empowerment!

4 Get to your venue early! Arrive early and make yourself familiar with the room and the audience. If you are running late, it is sure to increase your anxiety about the event. You can't be too early, because you can always practice, network with people, or check microphones and other equipment to make sure everything is in good working order. 

5 Focus on your audience and the message you are giving them. They are there for you, they want you to be successful. Turn your anxiety or emotions off by focusing on giving the audience an amazing performance!

6 Hire a coach! Coaches are wonderful resources to help you overcome fears and to achieve ultimate success. Contact me today if you would like some support with public speaking or any other life challenge. Also, consider joining a wonderful group like Toastmasters. Toastmasters teaches leadership and competent communication. It is a self-paced and encouraging group and you will learn from the best!

So, whether you are delivering a moving speech at a medical convention, or leading a craft demonstration at your child's scout troop, try these tips to help you get your point across without all the nervousness and Live Inspired Now!

One direction....

You can only move in one direction in life... forward. Even if your mind is stuck in the past, you are still moving forward. Don't miss the all the wonderful things in life that you are doing now and working towards because you are always focusing on what happened in the past. You only have one direction... forward, so live it up, stop looking back and Live Inspired Now!

The cost of inaction in YOUR life......

What is the cost of inaction in your life? Does it mean you will lose a relationship because you never showed the other person how much they mean to you. Does it mean that you stay overweight and develop diabetes because you never exercised and lost weight? Does it mean you stayed "depressed" because you never hired a coach or did any personal development?

How much is your story worth? Are you saying things like "I can't afford that workshop" or "I will never have enough money to do what I really want." The price of inaction is far greater than the amount of money it costs to learn something new and improve your life! The cost of inaction is unhappiness. Money comes and goes, it flows in and out of your life but when you refuse to spend it on things that will enhance your life, you are creating a plug that stops the free flowing nature of money. I am not saying to go and spend like crazy, I am saying INVEST in things that will enhance your life and create more flow. Such as: personal growth and development, classes or workshops, or hiring professional consultants to help you reach your life goals.

Stop sitting on your ass waiting for the right time to do things...
NOW is the time to hire the coach!
NOW is the time to lose the weight!
NOW is the time to create the life you love!
NOW is the time to do some personal development and change your thinking!
NOW is the time to get your life back!
NOW is the time to: (INSERT YOUR GOALS HERE!!!)

Whatever you have NOT been doing... NOW is the time to do it. Stop trying to sell your story of inaction and start creating your amazing life. No matter what you want to do, there is a way to make it happen. Find mentors or people who have achieved what you want, invest in YOUR life, love, and happiness, hire a professional to guide you and Live Inspired Now!

PS: Contact me today if YOU are ready to stop the excuses and start your fabulous life!

What to do when falling in love....

Love love love! It is all I can think about today! Besides being in a perpetual state of "in love" myself, I love watching others fall in love. Falling in love is the most exciting, and potentially scary, place to be. There are so many uncertainties which can make you feel vulnerable. Vulnerability may either scare you or excite you depending upon your personality. If you are the type who likes things to always be in place, likes routine, and always wants to feel safe and secure, then vulnerability can be a very scary thing. If you are the type that likes adventure, change, and trying new things then vulnerability might feel very exciting to you.
If you are embarking on a new relationship, even if you are scared, allow yourself to open up to possibilities. Don't go into a new relationship holding on to the baggage of past break ups. If you do, you are sure to revisit those same "hurts" over and over again. Open up and make yourself vulnerable to the person you love, build your new relationship together, not around walls that already exist. Be completely honest with one another and build your new life on trust, compassion, and understanding. If you hold back, put up walls, and keep your new love at a safe distance, you will not build a lasting relationship. It may work for a short time, but long term it won't be able to withstand any challenges. So go forth, fall in love, but do it with a complete willingness to open yourself up to the right person and build your relationship on a solid foundation! Enjoy one another, embrace vulnerability, even if it scares you, and Live Inspired Now!

It's a bad day... NOT A BAD LIFE...

The past few days have been challenging. Rather than getting upset, I am using this time as a great reminder that nothing is permanent.... not even our troubles!

So, a couple of days ago my parents came to visit. I was out all morning at meetings and then stopped at the grocer to get all the ingredients for homemade lasagna and bread from scratch. I rushed home to find the water softener installer guy at the house. I was able to get enough water to start dinner before he shut it off but I was not able to make my famous maple cake. So far, no big deal. Mom and Dad show up and we all ate the delicious meal while talking all about my new baby pygmy goats. After dinner mom went out to see the new babies and I joined her after clearing the table. As I approached my mom informed me that one of my goats was dead. I didn't want to believe it but it was true... Furio was dead and Frederico was curled up with him crying. Then, as I tended to Frederico and tried to comfort him, I must have squatted down into a mosquito swarm because I was suddenly attacked by tons of mosquitoes who bit me right through my yoga pants! I had about 30 bites all over my legs and my butt! Later that evening, my parents decided NOT to stay out my house because apparently, my house is now overrun with fleas. (We had exterminated the house before we moved in because the previous owner had about 45 feral cats living in the house. Apparently, we need to do it again!) Mom and Dad went and stayed at a hotel for the evening and I went to my room to relax and put the long day behind me. As I brushed my teeth to get ready for bed, a hornet flew into my hair and got stuck! That was the straw that broke the camels back.... I freaked out. I started swatting my hair and inaudibly screaming for Thad to rescue me. He ran to help but the hornet was thrown from my hair and disappeared somewhere in my closet. Covered in calamine lotion, itchy and sad, I felt defeated, I curled up on Thad's chest and went to bed.

The next morning I woke up with gratitude and appreciation that yesterday was behind me. I spent that day in reflection for all that I am grateful for. If my life were not so completely wonderful, then the bad days would not stand out so much. No matter how bad a moment, a day, or an event seems, it will all be OK. Nothing is permanent and just as troubles come, they also go. The more attached to outcomes we are, the more we will suffer.

I think the Universe wanted to make sure I believed this philosophy because last night, I was awakened by a very loud noise coming from my closet. I jumped up and saw the picture above. After spending a great deal of time unpacking, organizing, hanging, and folding my clothes, my closet collapsed and undid all of my hard work in an instant. My daughter Carrie even helped me by color coding my hanging clothes from lightest to darkest and now they all lay in a heap on the floor. At about 2:30am this morning when this happened, I rolled my eyes, said "whatever" and went back to bed. Today, I got a laugh out of it.

Nothing is permanent, and our attachment to order or desire for control will always leave us feeling unstable or unhappy. Let go; we control nothing, our troubles are not permanent and they will leave us. Go with the flow of life, anger and resentment will never change another persons behavior, it won't hang your clothes back up, it won't bring your dead goat back, and it will never make you happy. It's a bad day, not a bad life, accept what life throws at you, make the most of it, and Live Inspired Now!

You have NO idea who you truly are.......

The labels we give ourselves are illusions. We are nothing more than one another. We are all energy, derived from the same place, completely connected to everything and everyone else. While we are here, occupying "bodies" we have the ability to choose how we use that energy. For good, bad, love, hate, kindness, compassion, resentment, or anger. No matter how you choose to use your energy in your time here, you are no different than anyone else and only responsible for yourself.
The labels we give ourselves are a reflection of our egos, not our true state of consciousness. It is no different than when our mothers gave us different colored cups. Green for me and blue for my sister. The color of the cup let us know which was ours so there would be no fighting about cups. However, when one of us would want to harass the other, it was now clear how to do it.... drink from the wrong cup. The same is true in life, we give ourselves labels so that we stand out, fit in, feel proud, identify with something better, embrace our heritage, or even to feel powerful. Again, this is just an illusion that feeds the ego. You are so much more than your surface identity or label. These labels more often divide us and keep a wall up that prevents us from embracing and appreciating one another as well as learning to work together toward a common goal.... such as peace for example.
We are all energy, completely connected to one another and to the Universe. Too many people constrict their own potential or abilities because of labels. You are not a black man, a strong woman, a disabled person, a white guy, an army vet, an alcoholic, a ballerina, a stock broker, a homeless bum, a nerd, a jock, or any other label you claim. You may want to identify your physical body with identifiable characteristics but don't disregard your true essence. You, like everyone, are energy with form, perfectly designed to accomplish whatever you set your mind to. You have more ability and purpose than you realize... release the labels and embrace possibilities!
The ego loves labels but your spirit loves consciousness; awaken your spirit, try new things, figure out what you are truly capable of, and Live Inspired Now!

Control kills relationships

The moment you try to control someone, you lose the ability to appreciate them. I often hear from people in relationships that their significant other is trying to control them. Maybe by checking up on them continuously, telling them what to say and do, or even by spying or sneaking through their things. If you feel the need to do these things, then you probably should not be in a relationship! If your "loved one" is the type of person to cheat, lie, or manipulate, then make a better choice in partners. If they are honest and trustworthy but you continue to try and control them, they will eventually leave.
The excuse that you have been hurt, cheated on, or used in the past in not a valid reason to mistreat the person you are currently with. Do not make your loved one pay the price for the sins of your EX. Stop looking for the ways your partner is trying to hurt you and start looking at ways to make them feel loved! You are likely to have a much more honest and pure relationship if you focus on honesty, giving, and loving because the other person will always feel loved and appreciated and never want to leave or hurt you. However, if you continue on a path of jealousy, mistrust, dishonesty and control, you are guaranteeing a shorter lived relationship entirely centered in disharmony. You don't want a chaotic, complicated relationship with fleeting moments of happiness. You want a loving, passion filled relationship that can withstand fleeting moments of challenge. If you prefer the chaos and unhappiness, then perhaps, you are not ready for a mature relationship and should do some self discovery.
No matter what you do or where you are, you have to live with yourself and your thoughts; make them healthy or be a prisoner in your own mind. Relationships are not about anger, resentment or control. Let go and free yourself to love, laugh, and truly enjoy the person you are with...... as well as yourself, and Live Inspired Now!

Please feel free to contact me if you need help getting past negative emotions so you can move forward into a healthy relationship.

WONDER why you feel like crap?

Join me today at 11:00am with my co-host Jodi Brichta-Coyne as we discuss how to eat to feel wonderful! We have 2 guest hosts joining us today. Health and Fitness expert, Coach Dale Acciavatti and Health and Wealth Energy Coach Sarah Louise. 
Health and nutrition has become very confusing with all these new terms and rules: GMO, organics, natural, stevia sweetener, and everyone seems to have a different opinion on how to eat right. Join us today and take the confusion out of it all! Have your questions ready, we will try to answer them all! 

Today, July 11th at 11am (eastern)  FREE on spreecast:
http://www.spreecast.com/events/wonder-why-you-feel-like-crap

5 Steps To Achieve More Patience!

Yesterday I was going to post about patience but then ran out of time and decided to purposely "test" my patience so I would have more to contribute to the post. It worked! While spending a long day cleaning, mowing lawns, shuttling kids to and fro and, doing it all on a very hot and humid day, I was able to maintain my patience. I gave this post a great deal of thought throughout the day, and here is what I came up with!

1. Determine what/when/where/why you are impatient! Maybe you are impatient with your kids in the morning but no other time of day. Perhaps you are only impatient at work or while driving. Spend a few days really taking note of the people, times of day, or situations that cause you the most stress. You will be able to move on to step 2 if you know what makes you impatient.

2. Set yourself up for success whenever possible! Look for proactive solutions that will remove your impatience triggers. For example: If you know it is the morning rush that makes you most impatient, get up an hour earlier, or lay out the kids clothes the night before, or get a coffee pot with an auto start, etc. Your kids will think you hit your head when you are calm, cool and collected and not barking at them to hurry hurry hurry!

3. Set yourself up for acceptance when you fail! OK, so you won't always be proactive and set the clothes out the night before. Or even if you do set the clothes out, once in awhile something will happen to mess up your best intentions. When this happens, here is your plan: Take deep breaths, assess the situation, make peace with it, and then move forward. Give yourself a break, we are all humans and even the most enlightened of us will lose our patience sometimes. Step 4 will help you make peace when things are out of your control.

4. Take control of the situation by being in control of YOU! When things do get out of hand and your patience has run out, instead of globalizing about how bad everything has become, start to question yourself. Ask yourself a few questions that will help de-escalate the situation such as: Do I have any control over this situation? Will yelling or freaking out really make anyone move faster? Will swearing at the driver in front of me really make him turn? Recognize that you have no control over other people, only yourself. Anxiety, impatience, and stress are "brothers" and they lead to strained relationships, poor health, and disease; start to take steps to avoid them as much as possible! When you start to ask the right questions, you can reason with yourself about the situation.


5.  Surround yourself with patient people as often as possible.  The saying, "You are a product of your surroundings" is completely true.  If you are surrounded by other impatient people, you will tend to behave impatiently, as well.  Try moving to a different check out line or drive in the "slow lane" to avoid those impatient people around you.  Often times, it may be impractical to completely avoid impatient people (spouses, family members, coworkers, etc...).  Instead, try telling them how much better you feel when you practice patience.  Share these five steps with them so they can also experience it for themselves.

A few years ago, I decided to examine my own impatience.  I determined that I get most impatient in the morning when I am trying to get the day started. I had to get the kids fed and ready for school, make their lunches, write and post my blog, as well as, eat, shower, and get ready for my day. My impatience was in the form of rushing around and getting very frustrated at the kids for going too slow and I was often late for my job at the school. My proactive solutions were to start showering before bed, Thad took over making school lunches and I woke the kids up a little earlier. (The walks out to the bus stop were so much more relaxed and it became a really nice bonding time for me and my younger kids!) At that time, I was driving the teenagers, since I worked at their school. I informed them that my car was leaving the yard at a certain time and if they were not in it, I would leave without them. I was calm yet firm and put the responsibility on them rather than getting impatient every morning and trying to control their every move. My daughter, Madison, missed her ride to school twice and both times she called and begged me to drive home and get her but I refused and patiently explained that I was responsible for getting to work on time and could not accommodate her. (You have no idea how much stress this took off of me!) I could have gone in the bathroom and yelled at her as she showered to "hurry up, hurry up," but chances are she wouldn't have been able to go faster while someone was shouting at her. Nor would this have made either one of us feel very good about it.
Just be clear with your expectations, say what you mean and mean what you say, then follow through. When you can't control the situation, move forward knowing you have done what you said you were going to do and be grateful that you didn't lose patience. Other people will say, do, and think what they want, that is out of your control. A strong person controls him or herself and doesn't let the stress of a situation drive their emotions. Things will happen to test your patience and we can't always remain calm, but the more you do, the better you get at it.
Create healthy habits by practicing patience, set yourself up for success as much as possible and Live Inspired Now!

The stress caused by impatience can damage your relationships. Becoming more patient will take time and practice.  If you would like some extra support while learning to become more patient and stress free, please contact me today!

*Thank you to my amazing husband Thad Paris for helping me write this post!*

5 Ways to Learn Patience..... um, well......

Today I will test my patience... and maybe yours! lol. So I wanted to write about patience today but several things are hindering my post. My photo program crashed so I can't add my website to the picture above. (Small detail I know, but integral to my marketing plan! lol) Then, I miscalculated my morning and am officially out of time before I have to leave for an appointment. Lastly, my biggest challenge in patience.... I will be spending the day with 7+ kids in our old (empty) house trying to get it clean and mow the lawn so it will be ready for the new buyers!
So to test YOUR patience.... I will not be posting my article 5 ways to maintain patience until tomorrow! :) Will you be patient and return tomorrow? I hope so because I think I will have some very valuable information to share after I have thoroughly tested my patience today! Have a super day folks... please come back tomorrow and learn how to have more patience and Live Inspired Now!

Guarantee your kids have healthy relationships...

My12 year old Carrie had a friend over recently to spend the night. After returning Carries friend back home, her mom texted me to tell me that her daughter said of her visit: "I love how in love Thad and Heather are!" How sweet is it that a 12 year old young lady can appreciate a couple in love. It warmed my heart and of course got me thinking....
I spent years as a single mother, my kids never really got to see me in a relationship until a few years ago when Thad and I got together. I am so grateful to be an example of how to have a loving, compassionate, unselfish relationship for my kids.
If you are in a bad relationship, SO ARE YOUR KIDS! They hear, see, feel, and will emulate the relationship you model for them. Be sure that the relationship you have, is one that you would be OK with your kids having. Teach your children to have passion and be compassionate.
Set an example of passion by hugging, kissing, holding hands, smiling, laughing and sitting close or snuggling with one another. It is wonderful for kids to watch their parents happy!
Set an example of compassion by putting your spouses needs first, forgiving mistakes, avoid fighting, and speaking kindly to one another, and about one another.
Pass down the joy and happiness in your relationship to your kids, show them what to look forward to in their future relationships and Live Inspired Now!

Need help getting your relationship on track or ending it with the least possible amount of damage? Contact me today! 

I tried depression... didn't like it....

I was depressed once; then I remembered who I was and what I loved, and I was cured. I love this quote by Mark Epstein: "Depressed people think they know themselves, but maybe they only know depression." This quote really speaks to me because many many years ago, I thought I was depressed too, but I really had lost touch with my true self. I had allowed my circumstances to rule my emotions and rather than changing, I slowly let myself slip away. Over time, I forgot how much I loved to laugh, I forgot the intense joy I felt when helping others, I forgot how good I could feel if I took care of myself, I forgot how much I enjoyed walking outside in nature, I even forgot how much I loved to dress up and feel pretty. Nobody had done this to me, nothing had taken my joy away, yet I had lost so much, I blamed others, and I felt "depressed" and unhappy with the way my life was. 
Then one day, in a magical moment, I remembered who I was and what I loved. It hit me instantly, a brief moment of clarity and I was flooded with memories of how much I loved to laugh and to cry! I had not done either in some time, I had been living life completely numbed out, like a zombie. I blamed others for my circumstances, I didn't think love was real and I numbed out on a low dosage of Zoloft because my doctor told me I was "depressed,"  and I believed him.
That very day, with my moment of clarity, I sped home, dumped the Zoloft in the toilet and never took another pill again! I also stopped drinking soda, stopped eating meat, started to exercise, started listening to high energy music, learned to meditate, hired a personal trainer, dumped the cheaters, abusers and negative people from my life, and moved on!
It is not always an instant epiphany that jolts you from your "depression." For some people, it might be slow but the point is to recognize those moments of clarity and act on them! When you catch yourself remembering your joy and happiness, don't suppress it, embrace and encourage it. Nobody can stop you from feeling good except for you! Make a decision to climb out of the mire and get your life back! Some things will take time but the decision to change happens in an instant. Start today and see how different your life looks in 3, 6, 9 and 12 months from now. Stay stuck and you can still be wishing for change in a year...... let TODAY be the day you free yourself from depression, negativity, and self abuse. Start laughing, loving, be YOU again and Live Inspired Now!

Need help? Contact me today and learn the ways to make it happen! Clinical depression is real and can be treated. However, most "depression" today is misdiagnosed and is actually a learned pattern of many bad habits. Habitual depression can be cured with behavior modification, and a desire for change. I look forward to teaching YOU the tools to change your life!

Happy 4th of July!!!

Happy 4th of July everyone! I hope you will all be making time to spend with the people you love and care about. We are busy getting settled in to the new homestead and loving every moment together! Enjoy the day, remember our brave men and women that are serving our country and Live Inspired Now!

GOODbye!

You can find the good in everything if you look hard enough and believe in the bigger picture. Goodbyes are often for the best even if you don't recognize it at the time. Have faith and believe that the Universe has something really awesome in store for you and Live Inspired Now!

Change YOUR view...

The sooner we realize that we control nothing in this world except ourselves, the sooner we find happiness! People spend so much time in their personal relationships trying to change other people. Trying to change the feelings of their lover, wishing their boss would be more appreciative, attempting to prove to co-workers that they know better, manipulating friends out of guilt, or even using emotional blackmail against children or parents. NONE of these behaviors will truly change another person, it will however damage or in many cases, sever the relationship.
If you don't like the way things look, change the way YOU look at them. You are the only person responsible for the way you view things and the way you treat other people. If you are constantly trying to change others, you can't truly appreciate them. Change the way you look at things, find ways to appreciate and encourage. Find ways to look at things in a new light, with a new perspective. You have a lot to offer the world and so does everyone else. If you can't find a way to appreciate another person, walk away, it is not your responsibility to change them. Change the way you look at the world, find ways to be appreciative and Live Inspired Now!

You can thrive in chaos if you.........

My whirlwind life has not slowed down at all.... lately, busier than ever! Summer is here, 4 kids at home and we are in the process of moving to a new home. I have been thinking a lot lately about the process of getting things done and how stressful it can be... if we let it. Hectic doesn't have to mean unhappy. You can survive and even thrive in chaos if you get your attitude straight about it. So in the midst of moving, MOMMMM....., dog surgery, new goats arriving, MOM I NEED THIS......., packing, cleaning, MOM I NEED THAT........, serving clients, laundry, MOM MY FAVORITE SHIRT IS AT THE NEW HOUSE........, driving kids around, organizing and donating, working with my book publisher......... OK OK... you get it... it's busy! lol. All that chaos would have killed me years ago but I am doing pretty well staying present and enjoying the process.

As I pack, I think about being one step closer to living in my new dream home with my family. As the kids beckon me, I think about how much space they will have once we have moved. As the dog recovers, I think about all the acres he will have to run around on. As I drive to see clients, I think about the new home office that will allow me to see clients in my home. My mantra these days is "Enjoy the process; otherwise, you are living for the future and missing the present." The process has become much more enjoyable knowing that I am happy in the present while I am working toward something in the future!

If you are doing something you just can't enjoy, acknowledge it but stay present in the process, knowing that it leads you to something better. The process of getting to your next goal or step in life is often more fun than arriving so enjoy the process and Live Inspired Now!

A lesson from Grandma Bea...

My Grandma Bea used to say "Every day that I wake up and have a dollar for a cup of coffee and gas money... I am good!" She loved to wake up early each day and drive to the cafe to have a coffee with her friends; she did this until her last day. I loved hanging out with my Grandma because she was crazy!! lol. She knew how to have fun, she made the most of every moment, and she was never embarrassed to be herself. I always admired her and probably got some of my zest for life from her.
My grandma loved extravagant furnishings... gold wall paper and white furry rugs. She also loved to drive and never missed a chance to take a road trip... long or short.

What have you always wanted to do? What excuse is holding you back and are you ready to let go of it yet? The fact is, the only guarantee in life is death so make the most of it while you can! What have you been saying "no" to? What have you been too embarrassed to try or wear? LIVE IT UP MY FRIENDS!!! Take a lesson from my Grandma.... live life to the fullest and never let anyone tell you what you should wear, say, think, believe, feel, or do!

Today, I am off to finish painting my office. I am entering a painting contest and my office wall is my creative submission. My wall has hot pink, black, the word INSPIRE, waves and stripes... and, why not! I LOVE it... so what if it's a little bold! (I will post a picture here when it's done.)
So today... I hope you will be creative or do something you have always been too shy to try or too intimidated to pull off. Life is short, live and play like it's you last day! Do things you love, enjoy every magic moment and Live Inspired Now!

Love is.......

As long as you continue to look for people to "make you happy" you will continue to be unhappy. Relationships that exist to serve your needs will fail. If you are looking for the person to take care of you, to complete you, to make you happy, to motivate you, to love you, to provide for you, to raise your kids, or to make you happy, you will not find them. YOU have to be a whole person in order to have a healthy, happy relationship.

Love is about giving, not receiving. Everyone thinks you fall in love... not true; you decide to love. You make the choice to love another person. Love is an action, it is something you decide to do and sometimes that means making hard decisions that don't seem to work in your favor. Love isn't staying and tolerating abuse. Love isn't pushing people away or checking out of the relationship. Love isn't just about staying together. In fact, sometimes love means going your separate ways. Love is putting the needs of the person you love first.... even if it means leaving. Love isn't about having control over another person. Love wants the other person to be free and freely love back. Love is unselfish.

Love is unconditional; tolerance is not. Even with children.... you can love them but you never have to allow abuse of any kind. You are accountable for what you continue to put up with. There are no awards in life for the person who puts up with the most amount of bullshit. It is OK to put distance between yourself and a person who is abusive.... even if it's your child. You teach people how to treat you by what you put up with. Never accept abuse for yourself and never abuse another person.

Love is a wonderful thing, but make sure you know what it really is. It is not about control, it is not about monitoring one another, it is not about pointing out each others flaws, it is not name calling, it is not manipulative, it is not painful, it is not a trap, it is not something to be used against one another. Love is simple, beautiful, selfless, compassionate, and kind. Love is giving without expectations in return. Love is not about doing whats easy, it's about doing whats right for one another.

Are you really "loving" your partner? Are you putting their needs first? Are you making an attempt to understand and be compassionate? Are you looking at the role you have played in the challenges you face? Are you quick to point out the others faults without considering your own? Are you ready and willing to truly LOVE without conditions? Think about love today and make any changes you think might help your relationship and Live Inspired Now!

ME time....

Don't forget to take some "ME" time to replenish yourself. School is ending for most people, summer is here and things are 'bout to get crazy!' lol. I don't know about you but the past 2 weeks have been a complete whirlwind for us! Our family traveled to Rhode Island for my oldest daughter and nephews graduations. My daughter also enlisted in the Air Force while we were there. My 11 year olds are about to turn 12 and they just graduated from elementary school. We have another graduation this week as well as packing, painting, and moving to the new house. Our dog also had surgery so we are helping him recover through all the chaos! Oh my goodness...... it is a very busy summer so far and it just got started! Personally, I thrive in chaos but if you are the type who needs more certainty or routine, this can feel extremely overwhelming which is why it's so important to take "ME" time!
Thad and I are remembering to take time for ourselves. Thad's birthday was this past weekend as well as our wedding anniversary. We made time to celebrate our special day with an overnight getaway and a romantic dinner cruise. You have to make time for yourself to get away and replenish.
It is vitally important to "fill your cup" and let everyone else have what flows over the edge... everything inside is for YOU. If you don't replenish, you will feel drained and taken advantage of. If you don't reconnect as a couple, you will feel distant and lonely. You have to make ME/US time always.... a few minutes every single day, a few hours per week and a few days per month.
Today, the 3 Goddesses are having a special broadcast about "ME time!" We will be on spreecast today at 12:00 eastern, please join us. You will learn the benefits of taking time for yourself as well as HOW to make time for yourself with a hectic schedule. So today, please join us, learn how to make "ME" time for yourself and Live Inspired Now!

If you can't make it today at noon, please click the link anytime after the broadcast and you can watch the replay! 

'We are bringing ME TIME back' with the 3 Goddesses on Spreecast!

Chill the frig out....

If you make a decision, give yourself permission to be OK with what you have decided. If you are in turmoil over your decision, that may be an indication that you made the wrong choice. You can always make a new choice but when you do, allow yourself to accept it and move forward. Don't stay in a bad relationship because you are unwilling to make a decision. Don't settle for what you don't want because you are afraid to speak up. Don't teach your kids to live small by your example because you are afraid to shine your own light. Stop putting off decisions because you are afraid. Make a decision and be OK with it, right or wrong. Sometimes even the wrong decisions we make, lead us to better things. So today, make some decisions and make peace with them. If you make the wrong choice, change it and keep moving forward. Life happens... right or wrong, good or bad... so make peace with it, realize everything will turn out OK in the end and Live Inspired Now!
( In summary: Chill the frig out! lol )

Express your gratitude....

Being grateful is wonderful, expressing your gratitude is even better! Let people know how much they mean to you and how grateful you are for having them in your life. Let your clients/customers know how much you appreciate them. Thank your parents for all that they did to raise you. Thank the store clerk, waitress, gas attendant, hair dresser, and all service providers for the work they have done. Expressing your gratitude reminds people that they are important, some people really need this! It also allows you to do something nice for people by sharing the gift of thanks and gratitude! The more grateful you are, the more you will have to be grateful for! So today, don't forget to let everyone know that you appreciate them and Live Inspired Now!

PS: I am so grateful for all my amazing friends! I am grateful for my clients! I am grateful for this blog which allows me to inspire others. I am grateful for my readers and fans... you guys keep me motivated and inspired! I am grateful for my great kids who make me smile. I am grateful for my parents who were strict yet loving and gave me a good sense of being. I am super grateful for my husband Thad who is my best friend and soul mate and who inspires me every day!

Celebrate this!!!

If you woke up today, then you definitely have something to celebrate! Life isn't just about going, doing and accomplishing. It is about enjoying, being, and celebrating what you are grateful for. The more you are grateful for, the more you will have to be grateful for and the more you celebrate, the more you will have to celebrate. Gratitude is a habit created when you practice celebrating and appreciating life. Celebrate everything.... waking up, having a job, your kids report card, losing a couple of pounds, getting good news, feeling healthy, milestones, love, anniversaries, birthdays, half birthdays, friendships, etc. You don't have to throw an expensive party to 'celebrate.' There are many ways to celebrate... take a day off, pamper yourself, make a special dinner, have a glass of wine, make a toast, get an ice cream, take the kids to the park, have tea with friends, and laugh, etc.
Just be sure to make time to celebrate life and all that you are. If you are not taking time out to celebrate and enjoy, then why bother? Celebrate something today and every day and Live Inspired Now!

PS: Please join my friends and I for a free spreecast talk about Celebrations today at 11:00am eastern: We'll give you something to CELEBRATE!

7 Ways To Prevent Your Relationship From Slipping Away...

Relationships don't just fall apart, they slowly slip away. People get "comfortable" and start to take one another for granted. You start to run out the door without kissing good-bye, or you go to bed at different times, or you stop saying "I love you," or you start to give more of your time and attention to someone or something else outside of the relationship.

These little things add up and turn into big things that can damage or kill a relationship. They don't happen instantly, they happen slowly over time. You can reverse the damage and get your relationship back in time! Here are some "little" things that make a BIG difference.

1 Always say I love you, at least once per day, but more is better! They might already know you love them... but they NEED to hear it!

2 Take a moment to text/email/facebook message/tweet/instant message/post it note/ or call and let them know you were thinking about them. They need to know that you are important to them. There are enough ways to get a hold of someone today, use them to make them feel special!

3 Share intimate moments either kissing, hugging, snuggling, touching, holding hands or making love. You need the feel good chemicals that your body releases during intimate moments to create a bond. Don't let a day go by without physical touch of some sort!

4 Make time to talk about your day... every day. You start to disconnect when you don't know what is going on in each others worlds while you are apart. Smile and listen to him talk all about the mechanic that didn't show up for work, or the tractor that wouldn't start and you tell him about the weird lady at the nail salon or the funny tie your co-worker wore. Whatever your day holds, share it with one another so they feel connected to you each day. Let them into your world.

5 Eat together. Sharing meals together is a great way to re-connect after a long day. Make something you both enjoy, sit and savor a meal without television, and just decompress.

6 Give compliments and thanks. Don't let a day go by without saying something complimentary. "You look great today," or "Thank you for picking up bread on your way home, I really appreciate that because I didn't have time to stop." Don't let these things go.... even the small things! How great would you feel if you knew someone greatly appreciated all that you do?

7 Always be honest. Trust is much easier to keep than it is to get back... so don't risk losing it. Be completely honest with your partner about everything. Speak kindly but honestly about the little things that bother you rather than letting them build up into resentments. Talk to your partner about your relationship instead of to your friends. It is OK to vent and get advice but make sure your friends (and their advice) don't hurt your relationship. Your partner must come first... always. Friends are wonderful but if you need real help in your relationship, hire a professional and keep the friends out of it. Friends sometimes tend to hang on to what you have told them and hold a grudge whereas a professional is detached and can give non-biased advice.

Even if it's "not your fault" or you "don't think he will even notice," let go of your ego and try these steps today! Don't get discouraged if it takes more than one day.... you slowly deconstructed your relationship, it will take TIME to put it back together. If you implement these steps, he/she will notice and will start to respond as well.

Don't let the person you love slip away when it is easy to remind them how much they mean to you. Enjoy a healthy, happy, passionate relationship, and Live Inspired Now!

PS: Feel free to contact me if you need support through this process!

Heather Paris; NLP, CC, SI
607-269-7815
heather@liveinspirednow.com

Learn how to cleanse YOUR karma!

During my errand-filled day yesterday I was presented with an opportunity to help someone. When I was walking to my car from a store, I noticed an older woman kind of checking me out as she walked down the street. As I got into my car she approached me and in very broken English asked for money. I think she said something like "I need to buy a ticket, can you give me a dollar" or something to that effect. I have no idea what "ticket" she needed or really why she needed the money and I usually don't have any cash on me but I wanted to help. I had a little money in the console of my car so I reached for some cash and handed it to her and said "many blessings to you!"
As all of this is going on, a man was sitting in his truck next to us watching the entire thing unfold. I saw him rolling his eyes at the old woman and looking at me as if I was being taken advantage of. Just after giving her the cash I heard a voice say "Shes probably going to buy booze!"
I kindly turned and smiled and said "Maybe, but that is her karma, and this is mine" and I drove off.
We are only responsible for our actions and no act done is kindness or compassion is ever wasted. When an opportunity presents itself to help someone or something, take it, enjoy how great it feels to give to others and Live Inspired Now.

Are you tired of the same old results yet???

After a while, you have to get tired of making the same decisions and getting the same results. I hear it all the time! People keep getting into the same trouble, job after job, the same type of bad relationship, or the same feelings of despair day after day yet, never make a CHANGE. Change comes from new choices. You have to be willing to try something new, learn something new or believe something new, and your new life will unfold. Not sure HOW to try, learn, or believe something new? That is what I am here for! Hire a coach to learn how to have a happy and healthy relationship. Hire a coach to figure out what you are doing that keeps getting you fired. Hire a coach to support and encourage you to achieve that big dream you have. Hire a coach to, once and for all, lose that extra weight you carry around. Hire a coach to help you through school, work, love, stress, transitions, physical and emotional challenges, and life in general!
When you are tired of making the same choices and getting the same results... give me a call! Things change when YOU decide to change them. Life is abundant and joyous and has plenty of good fortune to offer you.... are you ready for that? If so, please contact me today and start Living Inspired NOW!

Inspired action..... how to get what YOU want!

My great grandmother used to say, "Wish in one hand and shit in the other and see which you get first!" Grandma was right! Yesterday I spoke about manifesting the things you are dreaming about and today I am speaking about INSPIRED action! You can have all the dreams or "wishes" you want but if you don't take inspired action, you are likely to never get them. I often hear of people wishing for this or that and then learn that they spend their days on the couch watching TV. They either expect a magic fairy to deliver their wishes or they don't actually expect to get anything they wish for.

Inspired actions are those little things that we decide to do that are outside of our comfort zone, are not part of the norm, or come from a "gut" instinct. Like when you decide to go to work on your day off and you end up getting a promotion. Or when you decide to say, "yes" to a party and you end up meeting your soul mate. Or, how about when you take the time to talk to someone you don't know well and they end up becoming your business partner. None of those examples could have ever taken place without ACTION. Try saying yes to new experiences and meeting new people. Inspired action always brings us closer to our dreams, goals, or wishes but we have to be willing to say yes when opportunities present themselves.

I love the old story about the man who was drowning and God told him he would save him. The man refused help from 3 boats that went by because he was waiting for God to save him. As he took his last breath of air he asked God why he never saved him and God said, "I tried, I sent 3 boats."
Don't sit around "wishing" for things to happen, make them happen and accept opportunities as they come! Don't miss your boat by sitting around wishing for one! Take inspired action, enjoy every moment, and Live Inspired Now!

Learn the easiest way to achieve your dreams....

Dreams and aspirations are created from emotions. We all have things we want to achieve in this world; they give us emotions that make us feel good. That is why we want them. Those emotions can come from wanting the "thing" you desire just as much as if you actually had it. The more you embrace these feel-good emotions, sometimes called "vibrations", the closer you will come to actually achieving your dream! You should live and breath your dreams, keep those feelings and emotions resonating all the time so you will manifest what you want. Put pictures of what you want in prominent places all around your space, have an action plan with steps toward your dreams, and talk about it like it is already happening! For example, when Thad and I wanted to find our dream home, we put pictures of homes in our offices, I had a house on my vision board that represented all that we wanted, we looked online at homes, we talked as if we were moving, and the Universe led us to our dream home! If we had just passively said, "Maybe someday we will move," it would not have had the impact of "pack your bags kids, we are moving!" Emotions guide us through life; we base our decisions on how we feel about things. Assigning good emotions can launch us towards the point where we want to be and can be done in a short amount of time. Put some real spunk behind what you want, take a risk, use powerful feeling words, and be ready for what will come!
Emotions are extremely powerful, they can either make you feel amazing or horrible. Be sure to attach amazing, feel-great emotions to your dreams or goals. Take your life to the next level, never settle for mediocrity, let happiness guide you, and Live Inspired Now!

Create an incredible space in YOUR home....

I have spent the past 2 days at our new home painting walls. It looks incredible! I am creating a spa like feel in my bedroom with a deep rich green paint color and warm mocha carpeting. You don't have to break the bank to create an inviting or relaxing space in your home. Paint is cheap for the amount of impact you get. There are limitless options to creating something unique that will make you feel like you are in the most beautiful place in the world... your own home. Do some research online, look up designer rooms to get ideas. The websites www.pinterest.com and www.houzz.com have awesome ideas to look at. Then create something beautiful that reflects you and your family. Even if you only do one room, make it amazing. Create a bedroom for you and your spouse to escape to and feel like lovers. Or create a kitchen that makes you feel like a gourmet chef! Or how about a formal living room to entertain your friends in. Ohhh... or even a basement fun room to watch the games! Don't wish for an amazing and beautiful home, create one and Live Inspired Now!